Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Sexual Identity

I used to think that people were either gay or straight, and that bisexuals were people who weren't ready to admit that they were gay. I now think that sexual orientation is more like a scale, with some people on the extreme ends of gay or straight, and others falling in the middle, truly bisexual.
My new view is the result of some conversations with one of my better half's friends, a psychologist, who mentioned the many patients she treated because they felt an sexual attraction that differed from their usual orientation. She concluded that everyone was bisexual, although to different degrees.

With so much societal pressure to be heterosexual, people like me who identify as gay are pretty much only attracted to the same sex; however, I suspect many straights are actually bisexual. Perhaps as being gay becomes increasingly accepted, more people will identify themselves as bisexual. I'm sure that this will complicate marriages and relationships (not that they need any more complexity!).

2 comments:

Identity Mixed said...

I used to teach at a college where that exact theory was taught. I truly believe it. I wish I could find some sort of online quiz to determine my sexuality for sure. That's how I usually know where I stand on topics.

Kari Hultman said...

My partner and I discuss this all the time——the gay/straight continuum——and joke that she's "gayer" than I am.

It can be a frightening & confusing concept to many people, both gay and straight.